"The gem cannot be polished without friction nor man without trials." - Confucius
So a friend mentioned the other day that he hates that life has heartbreak and sadness in it... Yes. The pain can be tragic. But I explained to him that while it is most definitely not my favorite part of life, I don't hate it.
Without heartache, without pain & adversity how do we truly know what we are made of? Go back to the law of cause & effect... Everything that happens has an effect. And with the heartache & pain something good can come from it...
We can come out on the other side of it stronger, more resilient. If we view it & approach it right (which is so very hard in the midst of it - I most definitely know that first hand) - we grow, we gain understanding, we gain the knowledge that everyone is going through something every single day. If we're really lucky, we come through it without cynicism.
I don't look for adversity. I definitely don't run to it. But when it comes - as it inevitably does in everyone's life on multiple occasions - I want to be able to handle it with grace (which is absolutely not something I am good at currently). In that moment, I want to remain aware that this circumstance is an opportunity for me to grow, to shape me into a better version of me. And I want to always remember that God promised to never give me more than I can handle. That part is hard... in the deepest moment of it, it's hard to remember that I do have the strength. That I just have to reach deep within & with all of my might pull that strength to the surface.
I read once to convert difficulties into opportunities because difficulties are divine surgeries to make you better. That I do believe.
"We do survive every moment, after all, except the last one." - John Updike
John Updike has it right...I just hope that I can do more than simply survive the moments... I hope to take the heartache & sadness life does have & turn the pain from unbearable into educational. I want to grow. With grace.