“Everything needs a break.” – Toba Beta
OK – so as I’m getting closer to hitting the 52 weeks mark, I
decided to take a break. A break from Facebook that is. Which might not
seem like a big deal to a lot of people. But actually take a minute,
stop & really think about how often you are on FB. I was on it
often. Not updating my own posts, mind you…. Just simply seeing what my
post-happy friends were updating/posting. And I realized that I was
really affected by checking my FB page. It is how I started my day.
All my friends realize that I don’t post often. I think there are things
that you share on FB & things that you just simply don’t. And I
have tried not to judge those who post way more often than I would ever
imagine to post ( that sounded kind of judgmental, didn’t it? How to
rephrase? Well, let’s just keep going instead of rephrasing)…. But I’ve
never been one to post daily/update daily. I never check in with where I
am. I figure only those in my true inner circle need to know where I am
at any given time. I am in advertising/marketing & I should embrace
all social media offers – but I don’t honestly subscribe to all the
beliefs. No one needs to know if I am at whole foods or at the gym or
beach or really where in this world I am physically at every moment of
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy FB. I might actually fall into the FB
stalker category. Because I use FB to just keep up with friends that I
adore but do not live in close proximity to. And yes, I was checking in
daily to see what everyone was up to etc etc.
But my FB-fast as I called it (which is odd because I’m not catholic
& I’ve never fasted in my life – but I do grasp the concept) – my
FB-fast was not as easy as one would think. Which proved my theory. It
had a higher priority in my life than I wanted it to have. My month-free
of FB will be complete on Sunday. I took the month of August off. (I
need to vote for my niece’s school for the opportunity to win something
or another that will benefit the school & of course ultimately my
niece – in preschool of all things & I can’t vote until Sunday
because I have stuck to my FB-free.)
It hasn't been easy. And I will confess that at the very beginning of the
month – maybe day 2 or 3, a FB friend – a good friend from my past –
mailed me a surprise package. I had no way of thanking her because
return address was note included nor inquiring how she came about the
surprise package except via FB. So – confession – I logged on to inbox
her & thank her. That is all I did - scout's honor. And that was
during the hard parts. The first 10 days of FB-free were the hardest.
(maybe that’s what rehab is like – I hope to never experience that) It
was hard but it was worth it.
I have spent nearly 30 days without reading my friend’s complaints,
aggravations, accomplishments & joys. What is the trade-off? I
sacrificed celebrating my friends’ joys to simply to get a firmer grasp on what I feel is important to
have center stage in my own life. To try & live my life of love, joy,
acceptance. You know – that age-old song – You’ve got to accentuate the
positive. Eliminate the negative. Latch onto the affirmative. Don’t
mess with Mister In-Between. Well I felt that FB was bordering on the
negative & definitely fell into the Mister In-Between part for me. I wasn't
accentuating the positive or latching onto the affirmative in my life - I was letting this technology get the better of me.
William Wordsworth said “Rest and be thankful.” So I did & I am. I rested from FB. And as Toba Beta said – "everything
needs a break" – I interpret that to even include FB. And I rested. And I am thankful. I am thankful
for everyone in my life - whatever their role - FB only or more than.
Positive or negative. I just want to learn from every experience. I
don't want to stop growing.
And I am thankful for my FB connections. Technology is a wonderful thing
until it rules your life. And that’s all it was for me, this break – I
just didn’t want it ruling my life & I felt like it was going there.
I am thankful for my FB family. For those I can keep in contact with –
more than just a Christmas card every December. I am thankful there is a
way to know what’s going on outside of my little realm. And I’m
thankful that I can recognize when it starts to get bigger than it
should & it starts to take on more power than it should.
I am rested & I am ready on Sept 1 to embrace it again without
letting it get too big, take up too much room or take too forefront a
position. I am ready to let it be a small part of my life - not start my
every day or take over. Perspective.